Sunday, February 1, 2009
When we first arrived in Cameroon we were in our mid-twenties and had been married for several years. It was difficult for our Cameroonian friends to understand why we didn’t have children. They would sometimes tease Paul and say, “Is she your wife or your sister?” At first we would try to explain about family planning, but it was too much of a stretch. Cameroonians value children over anything else: education, money, life experience. No matter what reasons we gave for choosing to wait to have children we sounded cold and selfish. Finally I learned to say, “Someday I am sure that God will give us children” and let them think that we had been unable to conceive, rather than that we had chosen to wait.